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I'm feeling very discouraged and totally inadequate as a mother. The Salvation Army gave

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Trinices   in reply to mothersscapegoat
You seem very angry and through your struggles I can see why. There's no need to be defensive because I wasn't putting you down and I am in the same struggle. So if you didn't need it you would have saved yourself the aggravation of not even accepting it. I was only pointing out another way of looking at it and so I suppose when someone is fed up I should expect them to be defensive but keep in mind anger only stresses you and I'm sure you have enough of it, so relax I'm not here to fight you I am here to complain as well.
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mothersscapegoat   in reply to mothersscapegoat
Furthermore, I'm not even supposed to be out of bed. Doctors want me to rest for a few weeks but that doesn't fit within my reality. So pardon me if I don't have the endurance to spend enough time in the Salvation Army Store to accumulate the $100 worth of items necessary to get the most out of that voucher.
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mothersscapegoat   in reply to Trinices
I can appreciate your viewpoint but you are grossly uninformed and ignorant of what my situation or experiences have been. If you truly desire to offer advice I suggest you go to my page and read all of my public posts from the very beginning. That will give you the smallest glimpse into my reality. I have not shared my story on here in its entirety for multiple reasons but I have shared enough that any intelligent and compassionate human being would recognize I am not the one to be insulting, criticizing, or chastising.
It is not selfish for me to give the voucher back as a statement that, when I decide to make it, will have an impact on those in a position to effect the changes necessary. It would be selfish for me to decide to spend the whole thing at once when we don't need it. What needs we do have are not being addressed and I will not settle for a handful of items for my son when they have an abundance being donated daily. I stopped donating to the salvation army several years ago because of policies like this. But last year alone I donated $2000 worth of clothing to purple heart, and 4 truckloads of household items to another charitable organization. Since my world crumbled 5 months ago I have continued to donate countless items to those in need. I have managed to find ways to provide for us and will find a way to provide clothes for him. Much of what we currently have has come from dumpster diving and garbage picking. I am not the slightest bit ashamed of that. In fact, not only have I provided for us, but I have met the needs of several other people with my finds, as well as kept those items out of the landfills.
So if you want to spew some self-righteous propaganda at someone I suggest you choose a different target.
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Trinices
If he needed clothes anything would be better than nothing. If you give the voucher back you are back at step one. Sometimes we can't get our way, ok they only had a few items but your son liked them so that is a reason to keep it. So its not useless if it gave him a little happines, its selfish because you decided to give it back only because you had to spend the entire amount.
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Trinices   in reply to mothersscapegoat
I don't know your story but I do know that you shouldn't give in to the system. yes it does suck in many ways. I guess I would be upset too, but think before you act so that things are not worse for you.
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mothersscapegoat   in reply to mothersscapegoat
I'm just feeling dark tonight. I think I'll keep to myself for the rest of the night. Good night all.
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mothersscapegoat   in reply to annie46
The help is here. But I keep getting denied. It's such an absolutely ridiculous system and I've had it! Tomorrow I will either get the help I need, or get arrested. Either way, I'm about to cause the biggest scene any of them have ever witnessed. I can't deal with it anymore! I paid into this Effing system for 18 years. And when I actually need help, not because I'm some sort of deadbeat or degenerate, I'm denied as I watch the parolees come and go for their freebies. I hate this country!
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annie46   in reply to mothersscapegoat
I am sure it does. I am having a hard time that things are not in your area --they fill the web/ media / all these programs to help/ sometimes I just don.t get it/don,t get me wrong I know if it was there you would find it, there is just a gap in help in many areas I have noticed this in just speaking to people across the country
Now what size does your son need pants and shirts there are many places here I can go get things if you could let me know sizes,annie46
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mothersscapegoat   in reply to annie46
I have to spend it all on clothing. I don't need any, but my son has outgrown everything seemingly over night. They didn't have a single pair of jeans his size, and only 3 pair of other pants. That's what he needs the most. I wouldn't even mind getting pants that are too big and altering them if I had my sewing machine. This is just so surreal. I have at least $60k worth of possessions being illegally kept from me. I can't get legal help so I filed the lawsuit on my own. But the court date isn't until June 11! I just can't make it that long. As it is I have no idea how I'm going to pay any bills, or get the things we need. We haven't even had any meat to eat in over a month. We've been out of milk for 2 weeks. Days like today make it really hard to stay positive :'(
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annie46   in reply to mothersscapegoat
Did they not have enough to spend the whole amount on/ could you get other things for your self / your home his bed linen?
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mothersscapegoat   in reply to annie46
Yes, it's a $100 voucher to the Salvation Army Store. I can only use it at this location and I have to use the whole thing in one trip.
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annie46
motherscapegoat what is the problem did you have to go to a certain place to redeem the voucher?
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